Your ego is defined as your sense of self esteem or self importance.

Now, here is a conflict to think about (and perhaps this has been tripping you up on your journey towards your success).

We have been taught that it is good and necessary to have a high self esteem. We have been taught that every one around you will only esteem you as highly as you esteem yourself right?

A low self esteem or self image is a negative thing, and a high self esteem or self image is a positive thing – right?

Well, yes and no.

Yes – you need to be confident of who you are (God’s creation and God does all things well) and of your abilities (given to you by God) and skills. You need these to reach you goals and dreams in life.

No – your focus should be on making a difference in the lives of others – not on what YOU need.

Herein lies a major key to your success in life and business –
which is:

Your focus! The question is: What is the dominant object of your focus?

1. Are you focused primarily on your own success and the success of your business (making money)? You are likely to fail.
2. Are you focused primarily on helping people and making a difference in their lives (first and foremost)? You are likely to succeed.

It is that simple.

So when we take a look at today’s affirmation from the 210 Day Affirmation Challenge by John Di Lemme, we not advocating you have to crush your ego, or lose your self esteem. No, the key lies in your motives for what you do.

Are you primarily focusing on pursuing what YOU want in life? This does not mean you have a high self esteem. Rather it means you have a high ego. Your focus tends towards being selfish.

Are you primarily focusing on finding ways to help others get what THEY want in life? Remember what Zig Ziglar is famous for declaring:

You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want

This is the meaning of today’s affirmation:

I am learning to lose my ego every day.

And the reason you WANT to lose your ego every day, and begin to focus more on blessings the lives of others is that this is one of the secret keys to YOUR success.

Really it is not a secret. It could be more aptly described as an overlooked key. But it is a VERY important key.

I am learning to lose my ego every day.

Here is the slide that illustrates today’s affirmation.

Today’s Challenge:

• Dare to take some time to take a real look at the driving motives of your life.
• Ask yourself, am I honestly motivated by desiring to make a difference in the lives of those around me? Or is my main motive all about me?
• My question to you: What are you prepared to do about any wrong motive you may discover in your life?

I believe in you, and I know that:

Further reading:

Why focus on others first

Put others first and you will be blessed also.

Resource:
Every affirmation in this 210 Day Affirmation Challenge is authored by John Di Lemme, founder of the 210 Day Lifestyle Freedom Club Be sure to check out this challenge and download your free motivational mp3s and mp4 from here as well.

Actually all 4 of these hindrances can be summarized with word, and that word is fear.

Let’s think about it for a second:

What creates doubt in your mind? Fear.
Fear will make you doubt any decisions you make. Fear will make you doubt your ability to face a challenge and win or to carry out a task you have never done before.

What causes you to procrastinate? Fear.
You may fear that you may the wrong choice, so you delay taking action on your decision “just to make sure that the decision was the right one”. You may fear that that action you plan on taking may offend someone or cause a reaction you may fear facing. You get the picture right?

What causes you to have low self-belief? Here is a question for you:
Which matters more to you, what others think about you? Or what you have in your heart (your dreams and goals in life).

Yes, outside of God Himself, the only person who really knows what is in your heart is YOU. (And I DO highly recommend seeking God’s help and support in everything you do in life, and planting your faith first and foremost in Him and His Son).

The affirmation from the Lifestyle Freedom Club’s 210 Day Affirmation Challenge that we are looking at today is affirmation #136:

(See the foot of this article for more details about this challenge).

This affirmation addresses all four of these negative hindrances, which we have already determined may actually be summed up in one word – FEAR.

Today’s Challenge:
Take some time to reflect on your daily habits and ask yourself these questions:

• Is fear driving my life in any area?
• How many of these four attitudes are affecting my life and in which areas?
• What do I plan to do about it?

Now take your journal, note or sheet of paper where you have written down today’s affirmation and declare it 5 times with a bold, strong voice.

Then declare it 7 times, in fact if you dare, continue to declare it until you sense a change in your present state. Do you feel bolder? More sure of yourself.

Good. Now take the action you wrote down in response to the question above: What do I plan to do about it?

Resource:
Every affirmation in this 210 Day Affirmation Challenge is authored by John Di Lemme, founder of the 210 Day Lifestyle Freedom Club

It is not too late to get involved with this challenge. Go to the Lifestyle Freedom Blog Click on the menu at the top that says “Affirmation Challenge” to get involved. It will be the best decision you make today!

When you do not believe in yourself you will not feel worthy of the success you desire. Consequently as soon as you start experiencing a measure of success you will unconsciously sabotage yourself.

This can turn into a vicious circle of just beginning to see results and then finding that everything seems to fall to pieces. You will experience this circle of frustration UNTIL you deal with the root cause.

What is the root cause? You secretly do not feel worthy of success. You do not believe in yourself.

This is why affirmation #116 of John Di Lemme’s 210 Day Lifestyle Freedom Club Affirmation Challenge is so important.

This is not an affirmation aimed at showing a display of pride or superiority. Rather, this is a declaration that is aimed at claiming your birthright. You were born a champion remember?

If you do not feel like a champion, here is why: Champions Are Born, Losers Are Made. Make sure you order a copy of this book by clicking here right now.

Today’s Challenge:

• Take some time to look seriously and honestly at your progress towards achieving your goals and dreams.
• Ask yourself: Are there repeat patterns in my experience? (In other words, is there a pattern or cycle of similar experiences in your life?)
• Now ask yourself honestly: Do I really believe in myself?

Repeat affirmation #116 several times with boldness and faith:

Resource:
Every affirmation in this 210 Day Affirmation Challenge is authored by John Di Lemme, founder of the Lifestyle Freedom Club.

If you are not involved in this challenge, it is not too late to start. Go now to the Lifestyle Freedom Club Blog, then click on the menu at the top that says: “Affirmation Challenge”.

Why is this so important?

I could not have explained this better than Darren Hardy who said: Your brain is always trying to align your outer world with what you are seeing and expecting in your inner world. (Darren Hardy, publisher of Success Magazine. Do check out the video on Darren’s blog).

So let’s apply this to who or what you are listening to.

If you spend your days listening to the naysayers and the complainers, what will you end up expecting to receive? Not something you REALLY want right?

Today we are looking at Affirmation #104 of the 210 Day Lifestyle Freedom Club Affirmation Challenge that I am involved in and blogging about.

Affirmation #104 is a simple yet profound statement:

Why is this so profound? Because when you ARE listening to your dream daily, your brain is receiving the right message.

The right message:

• Expect opportunities that will help you achieve your dream.
• Avoid the traps and detours that will take you away from you dream.
• Don’t chase those shiny objects that will make you lose focus. Stay focused!

Today’s Challenge:

• Take some time today to stop and reflect.
• Ask yourself this question: who and/or what am I listening to?
• Be honest with your answers, and note them in your journal.
• Make a note of some actions you may need to take to realign your focus.
• Make a decision to focus on your dreams daily.

Note: The slides that I am using in these articles were actually created for myself. They contain images that mean something to me.

I challenge you to create your own slides with images that reflect YOUR dreams, YOUR goals and YOUR life purpose.

Resource:
Get involved with this 210 Day Lifestyle Freedom Club Affirmation Challenge TODAY:Go to the Lifestyle Freedom Club Blog, then click on the menu at the top that says: “Affirmation Challenge”.

We came to the conclusion that you are either driven by faith or by fear. It depends on your focus. (Today’s question and yesterday’s question are knitted together).

When the main focus of your life is your life purpose (or your WHY), then you will be inspired to build your faith. Consequently your life will be driven by faith.

• You have a reason to develop yourself and your skills.
• You have a reason to train hard.
• You have a reason to work hard.
• You have a reason to never give up.

This is why your life purpose is also known as your “WHY”. It is the reason you do what you do.

However if your main focus is not clear it will be difficult for you to define your purpose in life or what you really want in life (your dreams and goals). This will result in your life being a candidate to be driven by fear.

Today we are looking at Day 101 of following the 210 Day Lifestyle Freedom Club Affirmation Challenge that I am involved in and blogging about. Affirmation #101 reinforces your focus on your life purpose and consequently will help you ensure that your life is being driven by faith.

This is definitely a declaration of certainty and unwavering focus. As you make this declaration every day (along with the other affirmations that you have been collecting up until now) your focus will become clearer and stronger in your mind.

• Consequently your faith will increase.
• Opportunities will suddenly cross your path. (You have become more alert to see and recognize these opportunities because of the strength of your focus).

  I am solely guided by Achieving my Why Now

  Today’s Challenge:

  • Make sure that your life purpose is clear in your mind.
  • Make sure that you are declaring your life purpose out loud every day. This will help you to keep your focus clear and strong.
  • Write down your WHY on a index card and read it out loud every morning and every evening.

  And always remember that:

  

  Resource:
  Get involved with this 210 Day Lifestyle Freedom Club Affirmation Challenge TODAY:Go to the Lifestyle Freedom Club Blog, then click on the menu at the top that says: “Affirmation Challenge”.

  

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