Fear works together with negative expectations to destroy your dreams and your WHY (you very reason for living).
Molly Gordon describes fear as:
Fantasy Expectations Appearing Real
Negative expectations are those “little critters” that you have archived in your mind and now they are waiting to magnify any present challenge you may face.
Remember, we considered a scenario that illustrates just how negative expectations are built in a previous article.
So what is the difference between negative expectations and fear? They certainly work very closely together. In fact I would call them “twins”, perhaps even identical twins.
Both are learned and developed.
Of course it is normal to have “natural fears”. These protect us from danger. You would never put your finger on a hot element or cross the road when there are cars close by right? (Well, you might have had to learn that fire is hot when you were little 
But there are many more fears that do not protect you, but rather they hinder your growth and steal your dreams. You learned and developed these fears across the years too and now they are trying to destroy you.
In fact these fears were learned and developed in the very same way as negative expectations were developed. They are based on decisions that you made when something negative happened in the past.
For example: Let’s suppose you encountered a negative experience with a woman school teacher. It was so bad that you decided that all women teachers act out of their emotions and consequently are always unreasonable.
So now, you unconsciously expect ALL women teachers to act this way AND so you fear women teachers.
Is this a true scenario? You bet it is (and no I am not picking on women teachers of course). In fact I have encountered this very scenario in my interactions with teens and young adults.
So fear is a result of a decision and it is developed.
Every time there is an opportunity to face the area of fear and you make the same decision as always: “this is to be feared, I don’t want to deal with it” you are strengthening that fear in your mind.
So how can you get rid of fear? It takes a committed. decisive decision which is followed through on a daily basis.
First: The decision.
You decide, I do not have to fear this any more and I will not.
Second: The commitment.
I do not allow myself to fall back into fear in this area. My commitment is to myself.
Every time there is opportunity to allow fear to control me, I decide against it once again, and I act.
How do I act? I do the opposite of what the fear would want me to do.
Third: The daily action.
How can I be sure I will have the strength to follow these two previous steps? By building my faith muscle every day.
How can I build my faith muscle you may ask?
- By spending time in the Bible and in self development every day. I read, listen to and/or watch motivational and inspiration teachings every day.
- By writing down what I learn every day.
- By writing down how what I learn applies to my life.
- By going out and DOING what I learned.
Are you DOING THIS?
I believe you are because:
